Name, Frame, Extend: A Simple Framework to See Your Skills in a New Light

Unlock hidden strengths, reframe them for visibility, and explore new opportunities with this 3-step self-reflection method.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I’m good at this thing…but does it really count as a skill”?

The truth is, we all have hidden strengths and transferable skills that quietly shape our work and relationships.

Maybe you can calm down a frazzled colleague, or set up a process that makes a messy workflow run smoothly. Those talents feel natural, almost invisible. But when it comes time to apply for a new role, talk about your strengths, or even just remind yourself of your value, the words don’t come.

I’ve been there too and that’s why I built and started using a simple three-part framework I call Name, Frame, Extend. It’s not about inventing new skills — it’s about seeing what you already do with clearer eyes.

The N.F.E. Framework

Step 1: Name

First, put words to what you do. Don’t overthink it. Write it down plainly, the way you’d describe it to a friend.

• “I troubleshoot broken online resources quickly.”

• “I can organize events without missing details.”

• “I’m good at noticing when people feel left out.”

Naming is about acknowledgment. If you skip this step, your skill stays hidden.

Step 2: Frame

Now take that plain description and reframe it in a way that highlights its value. Ask yourself: What does this skill really show about me? Why does it matter?

• “I troubleshoot broken online resources quickly” → “I’m skilled at diagnosing complex technical problems under pressure.”

• “I can organize events without missing details” → “I excel at managing complex logistics and creating smooth experiences.”

• “I’m good at noticing when people feel left out” → “I foster belonging and inclusion in group settings.”

Framing is about visibility. It helps others see the skill the way you do — and sometimes, it helps you finally see it too.

Step 3: Extend

Finally, ask: Where else could this skill apply?

• Diagnosing technical problems → could extend into UX testing, IT collaboration, or even coaching others in structured problem-solving.

• Managing event logistics → could extend into project management, operations, or user experience design.

• Fostering belonging → could extend into teaching, mentoring, or leading inclusive teams.

Extension is about transfer. It’s what turns a skill from “something I do here” into “something I can carry anywhere.”

Why This Works

Many of us suffer from “skills blindness” — we don’t see our own abilities because they feel ordinary. Name, Frame, Extend interrupts that pattern.

Name breaks invisibility. Frame makes skills legible and valuable. Extend unlocks new opportunities.

It’s simple enough to do on the back of a napkin, yet powerful enough to reshape how you talk about yourself.

Try It Now

Take one skill — any skill — and run it through the three steps: Name it in plain words. Frame it to show its deeper value. Extend it to new contexts.

You’ll be surprised how much bigger your skills become once you give them language. By taking time to recognize hidden strengths, reframe them for impact, and extend them into new opportunities, you’ll start to see just how much you already bring to the table.